LISTEN .... CARE....?

    When I ask you to listen to me
and you start giving me advice,
you have not done what I ask.

    When I ask you to  listen to me
and you begin to tell me why I shouldn't feel that way,
You are trampling on my feelings.

    When I ask you to listen to me,
and you feel you have to something to solve my problem
you have failed me, strange as that may seem.

    So, please listen and just hear me,
And if you want to talk, wait a minute for your turn;
And I will listen to you.

     If you are having trouble communicating....maybe the best thing you can do is to invite your loved one to share your feelings. Many times in writing or sharing with a friend, I've clarified my inner self.  When we are the listener: Put away your desire to quote Scripture, give advise, or to lecture.

Two favorite motto's are:

                                NOBODY CARES HOW MUCH YOU KNOW
                             UNLESS THEY KNOW HOW MUCH YOU CARE.

                                             TALKING IS SHARING....
                                             LISTENING IS CARING.

ATTENTION WITH INTENTION

     "Christian listening is an act which communicates to another, "Right now, I am here  for you. No one else, just for you. I want to  hear and understand what you  have to say....I'm all yours."  Listening is allowing the other person to set the agenda for the conversation, seeking to clarify his point of view. Ultimately, listening is helping a person to understand  himself better." (Speaking from the Heart, Ken Durham).

     Listening, is one of the most powerful tools available for building good relationships with friends and loved ones. Most people think communication means doing a lot of talking, but in truth, I think real communication begins when you start listening to the other person.

     Personally, I find myself having to review the Book of James where he says,  "Be QUICK to listen and SLOW TO SPEAK."

Returning Intention to Attention,
      Virgene

ATTENTION WITH INTENTION

    "Christian listening is an act which communicates to another, "Right now, I am here for you. No one else, just you. I want to hear and understand what you have to say. I'm all yours."  Listening is allowing the other person to set the agenda for the conversation, seeking to clarify his point of view. Ultimately, listening is helping a  person to understand himself better." (Speaking from the Heart, Ken Durham).

     Listening, is one of the most powerful tools available  for building good relationships with friends and loved ones. Most people think communication means doing a lot of talking, but in truth, I think real communication begins when you start listening to the other person.

     Personally, I find myself  having to review the Book of  James where he says, "Be QUICK to listen and SLOW TO SPEAK."

Returning Intention to Attention,
  Virgene

A Litany on the Lord's Prayer....

Our Fatherk who at in heaven, Hallowed be Thy Name.
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